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affairs more common today than they were when our parents and grandparents
were married, or are we just more open, gossipy, or fascinated with sex today
then we were then? Are we more influenced today by media sensationalism,
faltering morals, baring our all on talk shows, and lowered values demeaning
the word 'commitment' and 'love'? Or are we just more 'open' about
Today's society definitely
has little to offer in the field of morals and sexual discretion. Just about
every show, movie, or commercial you watch are filled with enticing hard
bodies scantily clad in clinging, sexy, and revealing fashion. Even music
videos have sexual undertones with flesh-revealing stars gyrating seductively
to the beat. The subject of sex, and models chosen for their enticing provocative
bodies are constantly being forced in our faces via the television in our
living rooms, the pages in our magazines, the movies we see, the world wide
web, the words to our music, the books we read, and gossip tabloids. It's
all about sex. So then can we really blame someone for having an affair after
they have been repeatedly teased, tantalized, and titillated? Yes, maybe
we haven't given into it ourselves, but did we have the actual opportunity?
Did we opt to remain faithful because we wanted to feel like self-righteous
martyrs? Because we feared getting caught? We feared disease? We feared getting
emotionally attached to our lover? Or are we hypocrites that claim marriage
and sex is 'sacred', let we had numerous sexual partners and liaisons before
we married? Are we only being moral, because we don't want our partners to
cheat back? Are we faithful simply because we don't want our partners to
leave us? Or are we faithful because we love and honor our partners?
Yes, we want to believe that we love and honor our mates, but is that
all there is to our faithfulness? Do we honor our vows? What about religious
influences? And why is sex outside a marriage a sin, yet sex without
marriage is acceptable?
This article is not offered
in defense of the cheater. Even in the grandest of temptation, most thinking
moral people would say,
"No. This is
Still affairs are
sensationalized by the media, by office gossip, by tabloids, by movies, by
television, by books, and by music. Often, too, adultery is glorified - just
look at the book and movie, The Bridges of Madison County. The whole
country stood in fascination and attendance focusing on ex-President Clinton's
words. Was it that fascinating? A disgusting little fling, or human error?
No matter what our opinion, there we stood, entranced by what transpired.
We have become a country, a nation - a world - obsessed with sex. What once
was private and sacred has now become publicly exploited and as socially
acceptable as shaking hands.
And, too, the examples
we see via the media has consistently proven to us that affairs are acceptable
and that loving partners
Is this giving the impression to our children that cheating is 'okay'? That
if we cheat, we are to be forgiven and abolished of all fault and blame?
Or that, if we are cheated upon that we are not 'loving' partners if
we don't accept and forgive?
The result? No one is
immune from having the surrender to temptation disrupt their lives, or the
lives of those they care about.
The subject of this article
is to bring to focus that affairs are not just personal, private matters
anymore. Infidelity is an issue that society in general, needs to claim.
It is an issue based on lower morals and indiscriminate media. It affects
all of us, not just a select few.
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